MEET
SEL
WHO I AM
Areas of interest/specialty include:
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Relationship concerns, communication and conflict
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Pleasure education
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Relationship or sexual anxiety
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Low desire or desire discrepancy
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Sexuality across life stages
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Non-monogamy
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Folks new to sex
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Supporting Asian communities
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Sexual function including arousal, sexual pain, erections, orgasm and ejaculation
I'm Selina Nguyen (she/they) and I'm a clinical sex and relationship therapist, sexology supervisor, and founder of Come Back to Bed. Come Back to Bed is a therapy practice offering sessions in Marrickville, Sydney and across Australia and worldwide (exceptions of US and Canada).
Who are the folks I like to work with? I work with folks from many different walks of life, yet all who feel stuck in their relationship, their bodies or sex lives in some way and often wondering "how did we even get here?" or "is it even possible to work through this?". This ranges from folks new in their therapy journey, folks who have just never found the right fit, and folks who have been doing therapy for years but haven't had the space to talk about sex.
I love working with people who want to find their voice, deepen their relationships, get to know vulnerability and create space for pleasure. I love working with people who haven't had the opportunity or haven't known how to reflect and talk about sex.
How do I practice? I invite you into conversations that are a soft blend of theory and practical where we might dive deep into what intimacy means for you at this stage in your life, but also what does it actually mean to be in your body or to feel your feelings.
Anchored in queer and somatic theories, I reflect back where I see you getting stuck and offer other paths through education, pleasure and connection. I hope to offer you a soft space to land, to fall apart and to be challenged. Alongside my formal degrees, I also get to playfully interweave my approach with my further trainings in the worlds of disability, non-monogamy, relational somatics and tantric massage.
What's my practice philosophy? I aim to be transparent in all that I do and I work from a relational, pleasure-centric and non-pathologising approach. The lenses through which I see the world and my practice is influenced by being Asian-Australian, queer, feminist and a cisgender woman living without disability.
I believe in the healing power of connection, and the need for us to learn how to be good romantic and sexual partners, whether that be learning how to navigate vulnerable conversations, creating new patterns, getting out of our heads, prioritising our sexual selves and more. I believe that how we approach sex is a mirror for how we approach our lives and in so, I work in ways that are holistic and honour this.
EDUCATION
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Masters of Science in Medicine (Sexual and Reproductive Health) in Psychosexual Therapy - University of Sydney
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Graduate Diploma in Relationship Counselling - Australian Institute of Social Relations
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Bachelor of Science (Psychology) and Bachelor of Arts (Sociology) - University of Sydney
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Professional Memberships held with the Australian Counselling Association (ACA) and Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS)
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Externship and Core Skills - Brisbane Centre for EFT
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Narrative Therapy Level One - Dulwich Centre
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Level One Gottman Method Couples Therapy - Gottman Institute
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Certificate of Attainment in Individual and Group Professional Clinical Supervision
"Put simply, Selina has changed my life. For the last 20 years I have struggled with intense guilt, shame and trauma around my sexuality that has made it difficult for me to enjoy and connect with sexual experiences.
By directly challenging my pre-existing views while still holding space and offering genuine compassion and kindness, all underpinned by a deep and holistic understanding of sex and sexuality, she has helped me rediscover and accept myself in a way I never thought possible. Thank you, Selina."
— Client (cis man, aged 30-40)
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