The mental load is a clear brake for many when it comes sexual desire yet we don't talk about it enough. We sacrifice our wants and needs in order to not ruin the mood. This can contribute to lower sexual satisfaction, resentment and even sexual aversion down the track. Martyrs make for terrible sexual partners, let's talk about it and let's learn that 'the mood' is not so fickle.

Amid the online world and endless relationship porn, it can be hard to know where to start, what to do and who to trust if you want to explore non-monogamy. Here are my relationship and sex therapist-approved recommendations to equip you for your journey.

It's about time that we debunk all the stories we attach to sexual desire and initiating sex, starting with this one.